The case of my missing employee has been solved, and SHE IS OKAY!!

First and foremost, she is okay. That’s what matters, not my annoyance with the whole situation. She is okay!!

Secondly, what a stupid ending to the story. She gave me a lot of worry when she really didn’t have to. The outcome wasn’t what I was expecting, but hey… it’s her life.

What happened? She got married.

She eloped with someone she met in Indonesia, shortly after getting there, and they decided to go on their ‘honeymoon’ last week. I’m not sure how much of honeymoon happens when you’ve married someone you’ve known for like 72 hours. But, hey, again, her life.

When HR did get in touch with her and she told them what happened and how they were in a part of the country without access to service/internet, they didn’t take to kindly to the story.

They reached out to her and finally got in touch on Saturday (Jan 14) after her being AWOL and off grid for six days. She was just like ‘Oh yeah, I quit.’ I read the updates from HR this morning and reached out to her on Instagram to confirm, and she says it’s true. Sent me a video DM of her and her new husband – such a bizarrreeeeeeeee story.

Apparently she just went a tiny bit crazy, married a man she barely knew and had LITERALLY just met, and they went off grid for a honeymoon. She says she’s staying in Indonesia to be with him and that he’s going to support her with his job.

I wish her well.

I’m annoyed that she caused me so much unnecessary worry, but I am glad that she is okay. This sounds like a recipe made for disaster, so I wish her well and I hope she stays safe.

Now I need to find a new SEO Specialist, rather abruptly.

I’m presently already combing through resumes for a graphic designer. So, you know, if anyone wants a job. (I’m kidding, but not really, but still kidding, but also… so many job interviews coming…..)


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43 responses to “The case of my missing employee has been solved, and SHE IS OKAY!!”

  1. Wow, so glad to hear this! Have to admit, did NOT think she’d quit. You’re a good person for being concerned and making sure she was okay.

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    1. I’m with you. I didn’t see her as the type of person to just up and quit. I was concerned she was lying unconscious in an Indonesian hospital – turns out she just decided to go somewhere there wasn’t cell service and not tell anyone.

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  2. I’m glad she’s ok.
    Up to you if you want to actually hire someone new, she’ll be back in a week.
    Then again, you did refer to her as…umm… sorry, trying to remember. I think you summed her entire being up as, “reliable.”
    Reliable means that she’s responsible and responsible in a way that other people can count on like clock-work.
    She snapped. She wanted to just BE. You don’t know what’s going on in her mind, but it’s a good bet it’s something about wanting to be free of the reliable/responsible label.
    Also, they may have been communicating well before she got there; she just met him for the first time when she got there.
    Doesn’t matter, I’m just glad she’s ok.
    What are the responsibilities and skills needed? Cuz…I’ll do it lol

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    1. Oh, no one on my team gets to pull a move like this and have a job to come back to. She’s done. She can rely on him, or find a new job. I wish her well, and I wish her luck, but that was an awfully shitty thing she did. I was ready to call the Indonesian Embassy on her.

      As for what she did for me – she oversaw SEO for nine of my clients. She was at our weekly calls to talk about tips, tricks and improvements they could make to improve their standings on google. If they’re computer savvy, the client would make the updates. If the clients are not computer savvy, she would make the changes for them. I’m doing double time now without her.

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      1. I’m sorry that it puts you at such a stressful disadvantage.
        I am also aware that you would never rehire her; it was more of a terrible attempt to make you smile. After all, she will want that job back in a week when she realizes that the richest people in Indonesia only make less than $8,000 USD a year. She literally could have had the life of a queen but got her needle stuck on stupid.
        By the way, if no one has told you this, you’re a really good boss. Most bosses would not care past “no call, no show,” not even that call to HR. You know your team well enough to know it wasn’t like her and you were looking out. You’re a really good boss. Luckily, right now, at 2 of my 3 jobs, I have good bosses like that too. If I don’t come in and haven’t offered tons of notice, I had a boss show up at my door. My third job wouldn’t even notice outside of the parents who would. They’d notice and try to reach me and if they couldn’t it’s a toss-up if they’d try to reach my company or the cops first. If it wasn’t for the fact I’m completely customer facing in that job, they honestly wouldn’t notice unless I also happened to not show up at any of the offered monthly meetings.
        Unfortunately, I know nothing about SEO. I wish I did though. It sounds like it would be kinda fun (sans double duty), would pay the bills, and allows for remote work, which would be awesome. And it’s computers, so I’d be able to afford my bills and some ramen.

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      1. Hello. How have you been?

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      2. Ah surviving. Thank you :). Been splitting my time between preparing for getting a hamster and seeing a psychologist for OCD, and trying not to overwhelm myself nor slip backwards too much! I just reserved a hamster yesterday though! 😁

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      3. “Reserved a hamster,” I have never heard it said like that. Here, you just go to the pet store, pick the one you want and buy it and the stuff and go home. Hamster in hand.

        OCD is rough, I know. Believe me, I know. The best thing you can do is cope with grace and understanding. You have anxiety, it became OCD. As a result, you do things that other people can’t understand and that interfere with your life (I’m about the stupid lists; academic anxiety created it and I still live with it. School may have forgotten me, but my brain hasn’t forgotten it). The only thing you can do is understand that this is not something you are doing on purpose, or to annoy other people. Life has ups and downs, you slide backwards and leap forwards. It’s the ebb and flow. Understand that. Understand yourself. Love yourself enough to not get upset at yourself (creating more anxiety) because you’ve slipped. Just know that tomorrow is another day, and focus on the fact that at least you’re healthy enough to fulfill your compulsions, your mind is sharp enough to feel anxiety and think positive thoughts, and your heart big enough to accept responsibility for another life for the benefit of being able to love (hamster). Mind/body/heart – you have what matters. Tapping stuff, making lists, hoarding; these things do not define us. They do not limit us. They do not ruin us. They are a part of us and help make us stronger, better. Other people don’t understand because they don’t have to live a “normal” life with these things; we get it, and we still manage to do it. So always accept where you are with grace and understand that today might be bad, but tomorrow really is a new day.

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      4. Haha yeah it’s a 2 year old rescue hamster! :D. She is still very youthful. They will deliver her to me personally for a charge too. I am still collecting the stuff I need, takes weeks these days to prepare for a hamster! So much required to keep them happy.

        Thanks for the pep talk about OCD! Liked your description of it ‘tapping stuff’ etc 😆. And yeah totally true school heaps irresponsible amounts of pressure onto kids, even worse these days. It can either make or break you according to some arbitrary standard.

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      5. Rescue hamster! Go you!!! Love it. I guess it does take time to prepare, but most people do that kind of stuff on a whim and buy stuff later (I worked in a pet store; come in for fish food and leave with a ferret lol)

        When I was in school, in that specific school, the level it was an exceptional amount of work. We were reading Shakespeare in 3rd grade level stress. We also took one foreign language, but had to do three to four courses a day in it, each involving a different dialect of it. I couldn’t understand the textbook one after 15 years, there’s no chance I’m passing ANY of that. But I tried. 5th grade started algebra, writing all of it. When I transferred to a public high school I honestly thought I was missing some huge thing that everyone else already got from years of public school. There was clearly some magic place where the actual school work resided and you got that information in the womb and you had to figure it out if you missed it. I went crazy the first year wondering where the school work was. Still not great at tests though, but I realized that doing the school work I was doing was giving me pretty good grades, so I wasn’t missing anything. The other students were stressing out all the time from the sheer amount of homework. 2 hours a night was a cake walk. From 1-8 grades, I got home at 4 pm, had something light to eat and was doing homework by 4:30. Only breaking to eat dinner, I’d be doing homework until 12-1 am. Every day except Friday. I was able to stop at about 10 pm and still have about 8 hours worth of it per day for sat and Sun. That’s where the lists came in. Making sure I was doing everything and accounting for every minute needed to do it, even accounting for pee breaks. Yeah, seriously. It was time management more than anything. Lists, lists, lists and oh, wait! More lists. So, I feel no sympathy for these kids that are like “I have soooooo much homework it’s insane! I spent 90 minutes doing just homework last night!” Yep, poor baby. Where’s your homework because I can give you more. 😂

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  3. 😂😂 What an odd ending to this story.

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    1. RIIIIIGHT? So wild. Not something I could ever imagine doing, so it’s not something I would ever imagine happening.

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      1. I know… Regardless though, pretty irresponsible of her to just vanish like that. I wonder if it ever crossed her mind that you guys might be worried.

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  4. Wow, now there is an ending that I was not expecting.

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    1. You and me both.

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  5. So happy that she’s OK! Bizarre is still the best description.

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    1. Right? Going off the grid and not telling anyone – seems like a great recipe for a lot of people to worry – not just me.

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  6. Definitely an ending that I wasn’t expecting either! But relieved that she’s okay.

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    1. Same. I’m happy she’s safe. I’m annoyed as heck that she would pull a stunt like this.

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  7. Seal’s song “Crazy” needs to be “their song”. Wow…good luck to her. I feel like this story isn’t over, just starting the second act.

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    1. Well, her second act is going to have nothing to do with me. I am not following this crazy train. She clearly isn’t as reliable as I gave her credit for.

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      1. Shit yeah she was supposedly reliable! Even more messed up. Wow.

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  8. Wow. Wasn’t expecting that. I’m glad she’s okay! I need a new job! Lol, but I do editing and haven’t touched SEO in a few years. Best of luck.

    Kinda a crap thing to do, just dissappear and ghost your job.

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    1. RIGHT? Super crap thing to do. I’m glad she’s okay – so now I can just revert to being super annoyed at the situation she’s left me in.

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  9. What in the actual heck?! I’m glad she’s… fine? Seriously… what?

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    1. She’s crazy. Clearly. But it’s her life. Wish she would’ve said something so I didn’t worry she was dead.

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  10. Glad she’s fine, but the selfish irresponsibility of her is appalling.

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  11. Thoughtless. I hope it doesn’t come back to haunt her. Weirdo!

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    1. Oh it will. Eve if their relationship lasts, which is extremely improbably, this decision will affect her for the rest of her life. Marrying a stranger… crazy.

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  12. It is the randomness of life that allows us to do the strange things we do, and while she created concern and worry for those who care, it is good to hear there’s a safe conclusion to the story and that she’s okay.

    You are justified to feel annoyed about the situation, Vee. Bosses who are supportive and care are few and far between, just make sure you vent your anger and frustration, get it out of your system and move on, rather than hold on to it.

    Granted, there’s extra work to find a replacement, but you now have a cautionary tale for future employees, should you choose to use it and something to consider when vetting.

    I wish you success in finding the replacements.

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    1. Thank you for this thoughtful response. I appreciate it.

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  13. Dude, I don’t even like conventional marriage. Eloping? I’ve made worse decisions, I suppose. Not many, though.

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  14. Glad she’s ok. Sorry you’re now in a pickle trying to replace her! Hopefully all will work out for you both in the end.

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  15. You know yesterday it occurred to me that of course she’s gunna have friends/family outside of work who would likely be aware of her being missing first. I don’t know why I wasn’t even thinking of that at the time, otherwise I would’ve toned down my concern just a bit.

    Anyway that is an absolutely bizarre story. At least she is consistent— all of her decisions seem to be extremely impulsive 😅. So yeah now it’s just concerning in another direction— vulnerable/unstable person in a strange place at the mercy of this random guy! I wish my life could be that easy lol.

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    1. But yeah totally gunna end in disaster 🤦‍♂️.

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  16. Arggghhhh how annoying is it that HR was exactly spot on!! Surely the company as a whole must be wary of hiring people in similar situations?

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  17. Good to know that she is safe.

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  18. Wow 😳 what a story! My husband and I have a friend who met his wife in Korea. They knew one another for only a handful of days as well. They were married for quite a while (ten years maybe a little less) but they’re divorced now. Sometimes you never know!! Most times it’s incredibly dangerous. 😬 My husband and I were together for less than a year when we got married but we had known each other for several years prior and we were friends. Still, people thought we were bonkers. Especially because I was 18 😅. Here we are though… 18 years later and we’re still together

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  19. This post is a relief Vee and I am glad that they found your employee safe and sound. Life is dangerous out there these days and I hope she will never make that mistake again👏

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  20. Oh wow! Such a blizzard story, and you’re right…a recipe for disaster.

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